New Wine

Each day you look and you long. Each day you pour your soul out until nothing is left. Each day you give – give until it hurts. Each day you live with a depth that only Heaven can truly understand. Each day, you dream.

In the crushing

In the pressing

You are making new wine

In the soil

I now surrender

You are breaking new ground

So I yield to You into Your careful hand

When I trust You I don’t need to understand

‘Cause where there is new wine

There is new power

There is new freedom

And the Kingdom is here

I lay down my old flames

To carry Your new fire today

Jesus, bring new wine out of me

Jesus, bring new wine out of me

(Lyrics of New Wine by Hillsong)

Your entire life has been designed for greatness. Designed for beauty. Designed for sacrifice and designed for depth. You devoted yourself to your family from the earliest age you could. You are fierce – in the crazy, loyal Arnold way. You are passionate – in the robust, faithful Schmid way. You are what it means to walk in the fullness of life.

These past few years have been your greatest challenge. You have been charged with learning and unlearning who you are and what defines you. These days have produced in you the Great Need you never fully realized – that the God of scripture is true and real and can be trusted. The Unseen God of the Bible wrote promises with you in mind – and has never neglected you or fled from you. These years are called “the crushing”. And in these crushing years, He is creating in you what could’ve never existed. The life-altering truths that are weaving into your newly created DNA are untouchable and unpenatreble.

Your amazing mother, my beautiful sister, poured truth and graciousness into you. This foundation is one that can never be altered, but the beauty now being formed on top of it will outlast any storm or crisis.

While the next steps seem to always be unknown, remember – God has already written your story, and guess what, it is ALWAYS good. On this 25th birthday, bask in the glorious Name that promises to never leave and never forsake you. He always hopes, always protects and always perseveres with you.

Karlie Abigail – Definition of Karlie – free man. Definition of Abigail – to rejoice.

Be your name. A free man, rejoicing!

The Void

Mother’s Day is a beautiful day set aside to honor some of the greatest women among us. This day takes time to give praise and thanks for the ladies who gave us life and love. The celebration of the women who sacrificed more than any child will ever know. The moment we slow down, pause and appreciate. This day brings so many thoughts and emotions. What I have learned in my thirty-seven years of life is that not all moments that should make you feel good, makes you feel good. Life is very difficult. Life brings about pain and challenges every day that we have the choice on how we will respond to them. Life’s twists and turns can drive us closer to bitterness by default – but what makes humanity interesting is when bitterness turns to joy.

One of my favorite passages of scripture is Isaiah 61

The Spirit of the Sovereign Lord is on me,
    because the Lord has anointed me
    to proclaim good news to the poor.
He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted,
    to proclaim freedom for the captives
    and release from darkness for the prisoners,[a]
 to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor
    and the day of vengeance of our God,
to comfort all who mourn,
     and provide for those who grieve in Zion—
to bestow on them a crown of beauty
    instead of ashes,

the oil of joy
    instead of mourning,
and a garment of praise
    instead of a spirit of despair.
They will be called oaks of righteousness,
    a planting of the Lord
    for the display of his splendor.

This passage reminds me of what Jesus quoted as His mission on this earth and honestly, what every Christian’s mission is: to proclaim good news to the poor, bind up the brokenhearted, proclaim free for the captives, to give a crown of beauty instead of ashes… Days like Mother’s Day should be a great time of reflection – and every moment pondered with the eyes of grace. The Lord designed mothers to play a role that only they can, however, in life it is often that others are chosen to play different parts in different lives for such a time as this. Mothers are naturally designed to provide nourishment, safety, comfort and warmth. Mothers are designed to be the biggest cheerleader for their young. Mothers create gladness and calmness. Mothers bring peace, in the Name of Jesus. When a mother is missing – the Void is great. At any age.

I am beyond blessed to still have my darling mother walking this life with me. I am incredible blessed to have my most outstanding mother-in-love navigating this journey with me. I have been richly blessed to have a sister 17 years older than me that pretended to be my mother my entire life, until she was radically taken from us (in our opinion too quickly) in August 2020 due to covid. The Void she left is great. The Void she created is massive. The Void here takes 500,000 other women to even begin to fill. The Void of precious mothers gone before us feels great – too great to bear. But we as women must consider who we might be a “void-filler” for? Who has God asked us to be a “void-filler” for? Consider on this day to be one that delivers crowns of beauty instead of ashes. Consider on this day who you can assist in binding up or proclaiming good news to? Consider on this day who might need freedom – freedom from pain, from hurt, from past mistakes or from life? Be a “void-filler” to the woman desiring to birth her own. Be a “void-filler” for the lady needing to hear her hair looks amazing or her outfit is right off of the runway. Be a “void-filler” for the mother who needs to hear she is doing a GREAT JOB! Be a Ms. Shirly who reminded me last week that it is perfectly fine for my son to do puppet motions in front of the entire church as an act of worship. Be a “void-filler” with laughter and love today.

My incredible sister and I.

The Story of a Photographer

Clifton Haley, the unsuspectingly talented artist tasked with the challenge of capturing earth’s most inspirational creation.  A gentle soul, battle weary.  One who is often frozen with fear of the unknown and overwhelmingly concerned with the realities of potential failures.  A man.  A husband.  A father.   A son.  A brother.  An uncle.  A worldwide photographer walking in the freedom of limitless independence.

A man born in Nashville, Tennessee.  A city full of dreamers and those in massive pursuits to be more and experience the greatest forms of themselves and their trade.  The beginnings of every story are crucial.  Knowing the first days, the first surroundings set the pace for every day and every moment that follows.  Our journeys are what make us the people we are today.  Our difficulties and our successes define the DNA of who we are and the pieces that have created our outlooks and perspectives on life.

At the age of ten, Clifton faced his first major battle – a mother diagnosed with cancer.  His mother has always been the source of his greatest encouragement and hope.  She exhibits all the characteristics of a true hero, choosing the salvation of others above all her basic needs.  She has been a constant source of firming foundations and development of greater hopes.  It was on one of the many walks at Radnor Lake, that Clifton took his first photo, of course at the urging of his mother.  At the age of eleven, passion was born.  Anything in its infancy needs nourishment and growth.  Anything in its infancy needs development and testing.  Anything in its infancy requires fuel and light.  Clifton’s photography aspiration was in its infancy form at best. 

Dreaming is not something that comes naturally for Clifton.  And this is why he has been sovereignly surrounded by those full of dreams – first with his mother, next with his wife.  All through the years, others have been his source of inspiration as to what he had the ability to achieve.  As one who has grown up in church with the Bible as the source of all truth and direction, the dreamers in scripture always created a curiosity in his soul.  In many instances he would be fascinated by those prophets of old who would see things in dreams and visions and then watch them unfold before their eyes.  With Clifton’s first breath he was born into the 7th position of being a Joel.  Clifton Joel Haley.  Joel, the biblical prophet, spoke to the ability of dreaming dreams and seeing visions – which is where the irony is, as dreaming is not easy for Clifton.  The desires of his heart have always been to be financially secure and the confident leader of his home.  Being financially secure continually forced his hand even further away from his dreams. 

Not long after marriage, Clifton bought his first DSLR in 2007, a Sony A100.  His declared profession was architecture and design with his degree placing him behind a desk drafting buildings at their foundational levels in black and white.  In his evenings and weekends, he focused on capturing families for their annual Christmas card photographs.  For three years, his life was defined by the brand Clifton Fotos.  He developed a logo, website and began to pursue more in his photography talents and aspirations.  In 2010, he had the incredible opportunity to join the world’s largest school portrait photography company, Lifetouch – which is now owned by Shutterfly.  Which also led him to upgrade to the Nikon D300S and the photography journey expanded in ways he never dreamed.  He quickly was placed in a management role which extended his work hours even more.  In 2012, he started following Serge Ramelli online.  These sessions allowed Clifton to grow his talents in his own time – late at night with his computer.  He followed religiously and immediately executed the “how to’s” into his images.  He travelled many places on mission trips to capture the moments of the team loving people all around the world from Scotland, Nicaragua, Israel, Romania, Indonesia and Hungary.  His gallery grew, his talent grew – but his finances slowly trickled upward.

In 2013, the long-awaited heart desire happened, and Clifton’s wife was expecting their first child.  This child would radically change everything about Clifton’s dreams – financial-stability peace of mind ruled out and controlled all his decisions for many years after.  He left his photography position and began working a 9-5 job in the banking industry which brought benefits that his family desperately needed due to his daughter’s medical needs.  Two and a half years later, their son joined in an unexpected-surprise adoption.  Clifton was amid growing in manhood, fatherhood and a family with his wife.  A season when the dream of full-time photography was only a glimmer.  A faint light getting smaller and smaller over time and nearly was blown out.  And this mode continued until 2020 – when the world shut down.  At the end of 2019, Clifton had decided in his heart to take a leap of faith and begin a full-time photography career.  But he delayed.

In March 2020, Clifton was bound for another trip with his Pastor to Israel to experience the Christian pilgrimage once again.  However, this year – it was cancelled the week before departure.  And his flight headed in a different direction.  While the world shut down, Clifton and his mother took off to Arizona and Utah for his first official photography trip.  They diligently traversed 1800 miles of America’s most beautiful sceneries including getting the rental car stuck in a salt flat.  These moments with his mother allowed him to capture creation in its truest form.  These images built his gallery in a new way – raw transparency of beauty.  His passion was reignited.  His heart’s desire was reinforced.  And he boarded a plane wanting more.  But instead of pursuing it full time, he delayed. 

His delay cost him his photography time, slowed his talent, broke his sanity, and forced his family into a holding pattern of a man wandering.  His wife never lost hope.  His mother never lost hope.  Clifton lost hope.  He chose destructive decisions instead of walking in the freedoms of his talent and dream.  He chose to be bound by a world where he didn’t have the freedoms of schedule, time and money.  Clifton chose to let his dream be squashed and nearly destroyed.  And then the summer of 2022 came.  And hope reignited.  After dealing with the loss of two years of career work and purpose, he finally surrendered.  He took time off from all things that consumed his life and rebuilt a foundation.  He and his wife developed a business plan.  And in perfect, providential timing, an email invitation arrived.  Serge Ramelli invited him to join his Inner Circle.  And after his wife shouted with excitement for him to “DO IT!” he surrendered once again.  He became the first member of the Serge’s first Inner Circle.  And his dreams of photography took a real, live, tangible form.  This one step radically transformed his finances, his talents, his confidence, and his future.  This one step was a pivotal point.  A marker of sorts.  A clear, precise sign of what was coming next.  His dream and his purpose realized.

Life can be challenging, and starting a business aligned with your dream even more so. Along the way, Clifton has been distracted, but never lost sight that God exalts who He exalts. God is always with you and that Jesus is the Way, the Truth and the Life. Take time today to know your core and find the truth.

The Chosen

If you haven’t made time to watch the free series called The Chosen, make the time.

If you are a Christian – this series is a beautiful depiction of Jesus and his people in the early days of ministry. It brings color to scripture. It shows the character of Jesus and the character of God. Sure, the religious will scream about it not being 100% scripture but guess what – it will definitely draw you closer to the Bible and the Lord by encouraging you to look at scripture in a brighter and powerful way. This series does no harm to scripture. This series brings it to life for a world that has given up on the hope of Jesus and hope at all. As a Christian, the stories of each of his disciples resonate in so much of who I am. I have always connected to the passion of Peter (not the good way), but in season three – The Chosen, through the story of Jesus and Simon Peter, my world was wildly interrupted.

If you are not a Christian – this series will show you what the LOVE of Christ and LOVE of God is supposed to look like. From time to time, the true and sacrificial love, that is only a reflection of the Holy Spirit at work in a soul, will make it’s way onto earth through a true disciple of Christ. When you experience it, you see and feel the difference – but I find it to be rare. This series depicts the truth of Who Christ is and the real failures and reality of His disciples. So many times, they miss it – as do we. So many times they fail the lost world around them – as do we. This shows the greatness of God and the failures of man.

All throughout my Christian journey, The Lord has used various things to speak to my soul in the most unexpected ways. Yesterday, He did it again. Yesterday, He used The Chosen.

I definitely don’t want to give it away, if you haven’t seen it yet – which, my guess is, there is a great chance you haven’t. However, even though The Chosen doesn’t speak in chronological scripture order – it does weave together the stories of The Gospel in a way that it “could have” happened. The sequence of events leading up to Peter clinging to Jesus and begging him to not let him go – walked him through a very angry season. Have you ever been angry with God? Have you ever said the words, “why was I out helping others while my family was taken from me over and over again?” Have you ever questioned why your life has been more difficult since becoming a Christian and wondered if there was ever a way to stop the pain? Or if you have been abandoned? Or if God is done with you?

Yahweh is big enough to handle ALL of your questions and ALL of your anger. The Hebrew God, Father of Jesus, The Creator is big enough to surround you, hold you and carry you through it all. He wants your anger and your very loudly asked questions. He wants your pain – as He is always at work. And we may never know on this side of Heaven the reason for all of the suffering, but what we do know is that we are more aligned with Him when we do. He only wants our faith.

I have never been more thankful that we began watching this series as a family. Our nine-year-old has loved every minute of it and our six-year-old has loved most of it. I don’t regret watching it together at all. There is only one episode that they missed and that was because my husband and I had to put them to bed but couldn’t stop watching – and it just so happened that was the one-episode parental discretion was advised. I consider it a blessing to have anointed people and companies in the world working to use their gifts in promoting the Gospel of Jesus.

Church, be full of the Gospel today. Church, surrender and submit today. Church, walk in the fullness of freedom He has given us. Church, be light in the darkness today. And for goodness sakes, everyone watch and support The Chosen. #bingeJesus #fishandloaves

“Off with his head!”

Says the Queen of Hearts again about another person who has cause her great pain. In the epic children’s story of Alice and Wonderland, we see the timeliness message of good versus evil. Nearly every time the world doesn’t go the way of the passionate Queen of Heart’s plans, she shouts in a command, “Off with their head!” While we understand this is not a great response to difficulties in life, I wonder if there isn’t some type of truth we can pull from it?

I was taken back to the historical and biblical account of David and Goliath. As found in 1 Samuel 17, we read about this enemy of God’s people who wished to enslave them. And their champion in the cause….

The had Philistines a champion named Goliath of Gath, whose height was six cubits and a span. 5He had a helmet of bronze on his head, and he was armed with a coat of mail, and the weight of the coat was five thousand shekels of bronze. 6And he had bronze armor on his legs, and a javelin of bronze slung between his shoulders. 7The shaft of his spear was like a weaver’s beam, and his spear’s head weighed six hundred shekels of iron. And his shield-bearer went before him. 8He stood and shouted to the ranks of Israel, “Why have you come out to draw up for battle? Am I not a Philistine, and are you not servants of Saul? Choose a man for yourselves, and let him come down to me. 9If he is able to fight with me and kill me, then we will be your servants. But if I prevail against him and kill him, then you shall be our servants and serve us.” 10And the Philistine said, “I defy the ranks of Israel this day. Give me a man, that we may fight together.” 11When Saul and all Israel heard these words of the Philistine, they were dismayed and greatly afraid.

Their champion set the rules for engagement. Their champion was one to be intimated by. Their champion was an experienced warrior who feared very little. Their champion was unbeatable in their eyes and the Israelites surrendered to what they saw with their physical eyes instead of what they knew of their God. Time and time again, the Israelites had experienced miracle after miracle and victory of their enemies, but this enemy seemed to big. And for forty days, they were paralyzed with fear while the enemy taunted them – day in and day out.

We all know that David heard this taunting and called it out for what it was. He was young and “ignorant” in the eyes of the Israelites. He was inexperienced in life and battle – however, he knew who his God was and what He had done in the past. David had been with the Lord and saw an enemy whom the Lord could easily beat. And responded with reckless abandonment in the face of all potential fears. Fear is silent in the presence of faith.

And when the Philistine looked and saw David, he disdained him, for he was but a youth, ruddy and handsome in appearance. 43And the Philistine said to David, “Am I a dog, that you come to me with sticks?” And the Philistine cursed David by his gods. 44The Philistine said to David, “Come to me, and I will give your flesh to the birds of the air and to the beasts of the field.” 45Then David said to the Philistine, “You come to me with a sword and with a spear and with a javelin, but I come to you in the name of the Lord of hosts, the God of the armies of Israel, whom you have defied. 46This day the Lord will deliver you into my hand, and I will strike you down and cut off your head. And I will give the dead bodies of the host of the Philistines this day to the birds of the air and to the wild beasts of the earth, that all the earth may know that there is a God in Israel, 47and that all this assembly may know that the Lord saves not with sword and spear. For the battle is the Lord’s, and he will give you into our hand.”

48When the Philistine arose and came and drew near to meet David, David ran quickly toward the battle line to meet the Philistine. 49And David put his hand in his bag and took out a stone and slung it and struck the Philistine on his forehead. The stone sank into his forehead, and he fell on his face to the ground.

50So David prevailed over the Philistine with a sling and with a stone, and struck the Philistine and killed him. There was no sword in the hand of David. 51Then David ran and stood over the Philistine and took his sword and drew it out of its sheath and killed him and cut off his head with it. When the Philistines saw that their champion was dead, they fled.

This encounter with God came into my life in a moment when I was being constantly taunted by the enemy with lies about myself, my family, my future and my faith. As I read this, I had also been watching Alice and Wonderland with my kiddos for the very first time. And then I heard the Lord speak – “off with his head!” David didn’t hesitate to cut off the head of the enemy as he spoke the viscous lies over the people of God. And once the head was cut off, the enemy complete fled. My new challenge for each day, each moment is to cut off the head of the enemy in my own soul – speaking it into existence.

Through out my journey, the song “Oceans” by Hillsong has became an anthem for me. It is a message of truth and reminders mixed with powerful ballads that ring a true battle cry. The lyrics are…

Spirit lead me where my trust is without borders

Let me walk upon the waters

Wherever You would call me

Take me deeper than my feet could ever wander

And my faith will be made stronger

In the presence of my Saviour

While I’ve sang this song for many years, each crisis and moment in this journey reminds me of the lyrics I have prayed over myself. When I analyze the phrase “trust is without borders” leads me to that moment of David or maybe just the moment of the Israelites. They had never faced a giant like this before who taunted them so openly and so boldly. The Lord was building another faith foundation stone within them as His people, but they were too afraid to follow. It took the faith of one man to teach an entire army how God moves the borders of faith and what can be done. “Take me deeper than my feet could ever wander” is a loaded statement. We don’t choose things that are difficult in life, we run from them and even plan ways to prevent them. It was the Holy Spirit who moved Jesus into the wilderness to be tested, why do we think God would do any less for us? Becoming deeper in a relationship with him, means we experience things and life that we never planned on. It means truly trusting Him and His character in every moment. It means resting in the fact that He is God and His plans are always for our good.

I heard this statement once and it rings even more true here, “the greatest spiritual crisis comes when a person has to move a little farther on in his faith than the beliefs he has already accepted.” I dare say, I have lived my fair share of spiritual crisis. I dare say my beliefs have been challenged more than once. I claim Victory in the Grace of Jesus, but understand there have been more than one occasion that I have questioned and even yelled at the One I claim to love and serve. Life is difficult. It always has been, but as you get older you have to determine how you choose to look at those difficulties.

Will you choose foundational faith stones or will you choose to allow the enemy of our souls to create bitterness that takes root and bears fruit?

And as my favorite Dowager Countess of Grantham says, “That’s life isn’t it? Getting past the unexpected and perhaps learning from it.”

5,840 days.

5,840 days. 16 years. Every person experiences a life full of something. We as humans have the tendency to view others around us as “better” or “easier” or “prettier” or “fill in the blank”. Rarely do we see situations or people as the reality that actually exists. Even more rare, is when we see ourselves with the eyes that the Lord sees us with, the true reality of who we are. More times than not, we capture this idea of what we are by what others speak over us – and knowing how little we each really understand or know about each other- think about how dangerous this very act is. Grace is very uncommon in our society. Forgiveness, patience and kindness are disappearing at a faster rate than anyone could have ever expected.

This past week, I experienced my two favorite days of the entire year – Christmas and my 16th wedding anniversary. There is a reason that these two days are so closely together and that I have a full month of celebrations and memories to reflect and feel. As I prepared for Christmas, my goal this year was to make sure that I wasn’t running wild trying to check off my to do list. This year, I wanted items purchased and wrapped well in advance. I wanted to sit and embrace the lights of the tree with the to do list completed. I wanted to celebrate and truly experience the season of lights with joy, peace and patience. I was reminded of a song, “Is there any wonder?” by Travis Cottrell that my church praise team sang many years ago.

“Is there any wonder? That this night is filled with miracles and mystery and unrelenting splendor. Is there any wonder? That the skies are live with angels shouting “Glorious, today you have a Saviour!” A throne was bare, while glory fills the manger with God with us is like a stranger here. Do we fall on our knees and thank God for so much mercy? Fall on our knees and cry out, we are so unworthy? Fall on our knees to the sound of ‘Holy Holy,’ until it shakes our souls like thunder… is there any wonder? Is there any wonder? While the baby sleeps there is a hill not far away where His life will be offered. Is there any wonder? Even now the tree that one day would become his cross grows just like any other. A child is born, and the world is changed forever behold the Lamb, the Lamb that sinners slain. Do we fall on our knees and thank God for so much mercy? Fall on our knees and cry out, we are so unworthy? Fall on our knees to the sound of ‘Holy Holy,’ until it shakes our souls like thunder… is there any wonder? We hear the stories, we sing the songs… but is there any wonder left in us at all?”

I adore this song. It is full of questions probing my thoughts, my beliefs, my foundations about this amazing Saviour, the unparalleled God and unmatchable Spirit that created a way for us to belong. The Lord God that crossed all of the course of time, from Creator to creation. To redemption in the only way that it could have been received – sacrificing all for me. I don’t begin to state that I understand – in fact, I think the more we learn about God, the more we realize we know very little. The more He reveals to us in relationship and fellowship with Him, the more faith we need and build in walking every day. I pray each Christmas, my wonderment increases. My sense of joy of the Father and fellowship grows in new and deeper ways. Which, as we face trials and pain, I have found, the depth of your fellowship takes new shape and new form. No longer do you walk in every day natural joy and purpose, but we must choose it. We must take account and inventory if we are going to choose life in our living.

I love more than anything that I had a Christmas wedding. Yes, we sang “Oh, Holy Night” and “Tender Tennessee Christmas” was played. Oh and we cannot forget that my precious niece sang “Silent Night” in German. It was a candlelit moment in time, in which one sweet lady said it was the “most beautiful wedding she had ever experienced” and “experienced” is the word I was desiring. Not just another wedding ceremony that people watch awkwardly, but truly experienced and felt. And may we not forget the fact that I am the most amazing Christmas gift Clif could have ever received… haha. I love this because our Covenant ceremony is placed perfectly between remembering The Birth that defines us and changes us AND the start of a new year. The launch point of Christ’s birth is our foundation. Without this foundation, we are two souls destined for loss and despair. Without this foundation, we are not able to do the incomprehensible – two sinful, selfish humans coming together in unity to become one being in physical, emotional and spiritual wholeness. Sixteen years into this journey, we are still learning what this means. We were reflecting with each other about the years we have been together and came to realize that we had been married 5,840 days. Being that we LOVE studying numbers in scripture we quickly realized that our years together are definitely defined by the numbers here – 5 equals ‘grace’ in scripture; 8 equals ‘new beginnings’ and 40 equals ‘tribulation’. There are not any better words to describe our short time together.

Every year of our marriage, we can give real life examples of the tribulations we have faced. Sure, we post great photos on social media that show the highs, but those highs are captured in the “in between” times. Our first two years of marriage are indelibly marked by us watching Clif’s father die from stage four colon cancer. The next three years were defined by not being able to conceive a sweet baby of our own. Then the next two were full of cleft surgeries for our gift from God, Georgia Ruth. And of course, wild man Joel enters the scene – but those next two years are defined with the constant unknowing and walking faith of whether Joel Nathaniel would be ours forever. The next three years were starkly defined by my father’s constant hospitalizations. Not to mention, massive church hurt and the splitting of our church, twice. Lifetime friendships disappearing like a ship out to sea. And then – the loss of my sister to Covid. Despair and Darkness. A core regrouping of faith and family. And the many other battles that attempted to take out our marriage, our health, our family and our lives in 2021. The constant need of GRACE defines us. The constant need of NEW BEGINNINGS defines us. The constant hits of tribulation mark our story.

Yes, you see the smiles. Yes, you see the laughter. But the tears and struggles in the deepest part of our souls are there. It’s through the tears and the pains that make the smile brighter and the laughter richer. Recently, we have had the honor of leading in worship at our church together. There are not many sweeter things than this. Serving with your spouse and covenant partner is one of the most rewarding joys in our journey. We have went through seasons that have rocked us to the foundation. And instead of running, which is my response to all things difficult, we clung together. Many days, Clif clinging to me – thank God He is stable in my madness. These days are sweeter together. When I have tried to consider my life without him, the unweaving is impossible. We are matted together. We are so connected it is impossible to undo. It is unfathomable for either of us to truly survive if apart. Which, by design, I am thankful for.

We have a sign in our living room from a Hillsong song that speaks so powerfully to my soul, and as my son was reading it out loud last night it really came to life in a whole new way….

“Spirit lead me where my trust is without borders,
Let me walk upon the waters,
Wherever You would call me.
Take me deeper than my feet could ever wander,
And my faith will be made stronger,
In the presence of my Saviour”

I have always longed for my God to lead me to deep places with Him. Intimate places that only He could define over me. I have prayed this prayer so many times, but never did I realize that all of the journey I have walked in have allowed Him to remove my borders. He has removed the borders of what I thought I could trust and where I thought I could go – He has redefined the journey. My prayers today look and feel different than ever before. My ministry and mission are wildly unlike anything I expected and anticipated for myself, my marriage, my family and my home. In fact, during this season of Daniel Fast, Clif and myself are praying for exactly that – we honestly have no clue what 2023 holds, but we know He is at work in us and our family. We are believing God to continue to light the way as only He sees fit and we will keep walking in the light He gives. I am reminded of 1 Corinthians 13 when I think of the love Christ is building in us –

If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”

This year will be our best year yet, mainly because we are clay in the Hands of the Potter. This year, He continues to write on our hearts His story of redemption, love and peace. Only He knows what the next 362 days hold – and for that, I am thankful.

I will leave you with another song – an anthem I continue to sing over my home by Maverick City, “The Story I’ll Tell” –

“The hour is dark
And it’s hard to see
What You are doin’ here in the ruins
And where this will lead
Oh, but I know
That down through the years
I’ll look on this moment and see Your hand on it
And know You were here

And I’ll testify of the battles You’ve won
How You were my portion when there wasn’t enough
And I’ll testify of the seas that we’ve crossed
The waters You parted, the waves that I’ve walked

Singing, oh-oh-oh, my God did not fail!
Oh-oh-oh, it’s the story I’ll tell
Singing, oh-oh-oh, I know it is well
Oh-oh-oh, it’s the story I’ll tell

Believing gets hard
When options are few
When I can’t see what You’re doin’, I know that You’re proving
You’re the God who comes through
Oh, but I know (Woo, yeah)
That over the years
I’ll look back on this moment and see Your hand on it
And know You were here

And I’ll testify of the battles You’ve won, yeah-yeah
How You were my portion when there wasn’t enough, oh
I’ll testify of the seas that we’ve crossed, yes, I will
The waters You parted, the waves that I’ve walked (Woo)

And all that is left is highest praises, yeah, yeah
So sing hallelujah to the Rock of Ages”

A black and white, fuzzy wedding photo capturing a genuine moment for our journey ahead.

Life in the Words

Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit. Proverbs 18:21

No book on this earth can replace the power of the Word of God. No words on this earth hold a candle to the power find through opening the Holy Word and soaking it in. There is not a book greater than His Book, the love letter written with me in mind. We are what we put in. If I enjoy my cheeseburgers and cheesecake every day of my life, my body will be a reflection of that. The same holds true for the soul. If I neglect the very words that bring life to my soul and mind, I will flounder in the wind.

I’ve been asked many times “what are you reading?” or “is this a good book?” or “what can I do to change my circumstance or be more joyful?” A few weeks ago, I began to really look at my bookshelves and realize the books I have read over the course of my short 37 years have brought great impact to my outlook on life, my perspective on my circumstances on life and what I have chosen to impact my head space. So, this blog is a little unique, as I am sharing the books that have meant something to me – but come highly recommended.

Disclaimer: I do not necessarily agree with all of the authors stance on many things, so please do not use this message as an attempt on anything ugly. I am stating that these specific books pushed me, challenged me, and encouraged me. These books below are never meant to replace the time spent with the Word of God – only to enhance the time spent. Here we go….

The Autobiography of George Muller; Corrie Ten Boom; Prayers that Avail Much by Copeland; The Power of a Praying Wife by Omartian; Praying through the Names of God by Tony Evans; Secrets of the Secret Place by Bob Sorge and One Thousand Gifts by Ann Voscamp.

These books are some of the books I have owned and read for more than twenty years and some I just added within the last five. These books keep me grounded in my faith as they are foundational reminders to the scriptures that are so dear to my soul and give the life that continues to keep me moving in my darkest moments. They are tools in guiding me to the quiet stillness moments with my Lord. They are the constant visuals of continued mission. Our days are difficult – my life is full of uphill climbs, and I am sure so is yours… but these are core foundational reminders to keep the faith and stay connected to the only Life Giving Vine we know.

Two of these are daily prayer books that can be utilized to assist in daily prayer time [#3&4]. Two of these are stories of people you cannot find in existence anymore – they walked so closely with God the earth shook when they awoke [#1&2]. The other three are made up of helpful reminders of the importance of time alone with God [#6], time of gratitude during every day darkness [#7] and a reminder that every jot and tittle are not wasted in God’s word [#5].

Praying Circles Around Your Children by Mark Batterson; My Utmost for His Highest by Oswald Chambers; Upside Down Prayers for Parents by Bergren; Raising Kingdom Kids by Tony Evans; Kingdom Marriage by Tony Evans; Parenting by Tripp; New Morning Mercies by Tripp

These incredible books tell stories over my life. My Utmost for His Highest was first published in 1924 by Chambers’ widow [#2]. I can remember opening this devotional book for the first time in high school – I stole my mom’s book – and thinking about how timeless it was for our lives even today. These words ring loudly with wisdom and truths that are very uncommon to our culture, but dripping with the Spirit of God. Also, New Morning Mercies [#7], is a beautiful daily devotional read that was gifted to me by a very dear friend. They are full of powerful reminders a daily truths for today.

Praying Circles Around Your Children and Upside Down Prayers for Parents [#1&3] are also full of unique and counter-culture reminders and prayers applicable to the little humans you may be raising. Raising children is one of the most crucial positions and mission I hold and I cannot tell you how ill-equipped I often feel. These little reads are great reminders on how to stay focused on what truly matters and dismiss the rest. Numbers 4, 5 & 6 will give you great hope while dismantling all of the ugly found within your own selfish soul. I have a love and hate relationship with all three of these books because they enlighten me to many of my own character flaws which brings great pain, but it is the much needed, good pain. They have helped me grow more than so many other books I have touched.

The Pit with a Lion on a Snowy Day by Mark Batterson; Grave Robber by Mark Batterson; You and Me Forever by Francis & Lisa Chan; Crazy Love by Francis Chan; You Were Made for More by Jim Cymbala; Spirit Rising by Jim Cymbala; Fresh Faith and Fresh Power by Jim Cymbala; Not Forsaken by Louis Giglio; For the Love by Jen Hatmaker; Seven by Jen Hatmaker; Here, Now by Kate Merrick; Adopted for Life by Moore; Forgiving What You Can’t Forget by Lysa Terkeurst; The Broken Way by Ann Voscamp.

WOW – each of these books I can tell you were I sat and what season of life I was in while I was reading them. The Fresh Faith and Fresh Power Cymbala books take me all the way back to high school reading. I know I was a nerd and not the normal high school student, just ask my youth pastor who was charged with dealing with me and my constant push for more! And the Batterson books which helped my not long after the death of my sister with navigating who my God says He is. And of course the Hatmaker books which lightened my up from religion and thrusted me into more of relationship and laughter with my God. And the timely book that I had read many years ago, The Broken Way by Ann Voscamp, which taught me foundational truths before I knew I would really need them.

Here, Now – a wake up call to all who cannot seem to stop letting life control them. And Adopted for Life – the awesomeness about how we are all adopted in Christ and how that parallels for those littles among us adopted into our family home. Crazy Love by Chan will challenge you – if you think you love God, read this. It will make you think twice about what love really is. You Were Made for More by Cymbala – I remember reading all of NYC when me and my husband Clif went on a couples only weekend trip to hear from God and photograph the city. It was a powerful weekend of renewal and goodness for us both and this was my book of choice. Never would I dream our family and home would look the way it does now. Every day I am blessed.

And of course, You and Me Forever a great marriage book and tool to be the guideposts on this journey. And Forgiving What You Cannot Forget – speaks for itself. A Powerful Read to stop the victim card being played in your life. And Not Forsaken by Giglio – exactly that… all are must go to’s. And reminder books for life.

Prayers that Avail Much for Women, Copeland; How Successful People Lead, Maxwell; Minute Motivators for Leaders; Slow Down by Nordeman; Simple Truths of Service; Go-Giver; Rainmaker; The 12 Week Year; The Sensational Salesman, Cummings; Live Love Lead by Houston; Spiritual Leadership by Blackaby; FISH; Inside the Magic Kingdom – Disney’s Success; Customer Satisfaction is Worthless Customer Loyalty is Priceless.

Each of these are business, sales, leadership, customer service, good human books. I could go into detail, but honestly, each of these have nuggets of goodness and best practices for all. If you are in business at all – read them all. If you are a leader at all, read them all.

CS Lewis; Francine Rivers; Karen Kingsbury – best fiction authors with purpose

These are some of the best fiction books and series I have ever read with a greater purpose. The Magicians Nephew by CS Lewis is the first book in the Chronicles of Narnia Series – A MUST READ. The Screwtape Letters is a book written by the demons who are trying to destroy a human’s life. It gives great perspective on our days of living today, even though written many years ago. Rejoice is in the first series of the 20+ book series of the Baxter Family books by Karen Kingsbury. I couldn’t find my first book, Redemption, I am sure I loaned it out – but these are a powerful fiction read of a family living life with problems growing their faith. I believe many of us can relate.

Angels Walking series is another set of books by Karen Kingsbury that speaks to how the angels walk among us – such a great fiction by bound in truth read! Francine Rivers is one of the most historical fiction authors I’ve ever read – she will create stories within a biblical era and do great things with not being against scripture, but building the stories out. Sons of Encouragement and Lineage of Grace are great examples of this. Also, my favorite series of ALL Time is the Mark of the Lion Series which begins with Voice in the Wind. Redeeming Love – read it the first time in 24 hours. I am thankful there is one who passionately pursues my soul in this way. Even after I leave and flee so very often. I highly recommend each of these great literary marvels!

Multiply by Francis Chan; Walking with God in Every Season- Ecclesiastes/SongofSolomon/Lamentations, Arthur/Delacy; Ezra/Nehemiah/Esther by Arthur/Delacy; 40 minute studies by Arthur/Delacy; Waymaker by Ann Voscamp; No Other Gods by Minter; Gideon by Priscilla Shirer; Radical by David Platt, The Broken Way by Ann Voscamp; Breathe by Priscilla Shirer; Covenant by Kay Arthur; not listed: PRECEPT UPON PRECEPT by Kay Arthur

Discipleship Books – each and every one of these have unlocked a powerful truth about my God. If you are looking for core foundational truths that challenge you and encourage you in your relationship with God, these are great studies that will grow you and take you deeper in fellowship with the Lord. Each of these will guide you in the Truth of the Word and the hope of tomorrow. The bible study of Gideon, for example, Priscilla Shirer unpacks the story of Gideon. The powerful truth of how our God looks at a scared man fearing for his life and calls him a “Valiant Warrior.” Even when our actions don’t line up, our God still speaks truth over us. A great place to start bible studies is on precept.org – they have studies for all walks of life and all ages.

I know this is a lot to share on this amazing Christmas Eve – but today is the day to start to read. Reading changes an atmosphere. What we are putting in is either bringing death or life. Choose to turn the TV and the Facebook off today and pick up a book that will bring life! Make the most of 2023 – make it different than the last.

Be Present.

We must choose to live in the moment we are in.

Peak at the future.

Glance at the past.

Dwell and move in the present.

When we dwell too long in the past and dream too much about the future, we miss today. We miss this moment of purpose and joy and mission. Anxiety and fear can consume the past and the future – but it has zero power over the present. There is no fear of the present, because it is happening – no “what if’s” no “why this?”

The present is the only thing true. The past can have many interpretations that create massive confusion and loss. The future is full of unknown which can create unprecedented fear. And the future may not come.

We only have today. This moment – and how will we spend it?

Are there things that decrease your value and worth? Are there people speaking lies into you? Are you on a road leading to danger and death? Guess what, change the present. Each day and each life has struggles all their own. This promise is true – new mercies come in the morning. Every morning be ready to start afresh, to start with a new vision and a new purpose.

We must like the life you live. This is the only life we have. We live to honor and love the Lord, but that doesn’t mean it shouldn’t fulfill everything in you as a person. When we walk the life He created for us, we walk in the fullness of who we are. Our desires are met completely. Our vision and mission is clear. We cannot help but like the life we are living. Shake the burdens off that were never intended to be there. Learn to listen and slow. Learn to rest in the goodness of today and let tomorrow come when it comes. Pray for wisdom – welcome it with open doors.

All things in life happen around us for a purpose. We may see the purpose immediately or we many never know. The one thing to always remember is that only certain things can grow in certain seasons…so maybe today, soak in the reality of harvesting brand new grain in your life that can only be nourished in the season you are in today.

Don’t be anxious for tomorrow or regretful/depressed about the past. Live in today – as today is flourishing new fruit in your soul.

Words from Mom

Today, you are 17. You are the youngest of three girls and the oldest cousin in your grouping of cousins. You are constantly searching and longing. You are naturally full of beauty, created in a life of adventure, charm, competition and pain. You have experienced the apex of joy and the tunnels of dark sadness. These last few years have created depths of heartache and overwhelming sadness for the loss of what could have been. While many of us will try and feel a void, a deep canyon and the largest foot print of personality and love this world has ever seen – we will never replace the majesty of your mother.

While I sit here, and as I have pondered all day – what would she want to say to you today. Here is my best guess….

  • Don’t be so hard on yourself. Relax – you are doing amazing with all you have been given.
  • Easter is coming – make sure you curl your hair and smile for real in pictures.
  • Always cuddle in Kayla and Karlie’s beds – they are very experienced in that area, I trained them well.
  • Live your life the way the Lord wants – no one else.
  • Be genuine. You are definitely enough.
  • Go to UT Knoxville (okay, well, maybe that is Heather talking)
  • Go easy on the Chickfila 🙂
  • Sing loud in the car! Top of your lungs!
  • Take those naps – adulthood comes soon enough.
  • Gibbs Volleyball is totally going to state this year.
  • Never stop giving Uncle Scott a hard time – I know he misses picking on me.
  • Watch out after your dad – he loves you, and I am sure struggling to show and understand you.
  • Stay close to the Lord. Stay in church.
  • Linger with family longer. Linger with friends too.
  • Speak your heart – share your burdens with those who can help you carry them.
  • Make more space for the things that matter.
  • Put your phone down.
  • Live loud. Laugh always. Love hard.
  • You are beautiful. Never forget it.
  • Remind Heather to laugh – and keep her up on the gossip. Lord knows she will never know it.
  • Be strong, little girl. You are going to be just fine!

Happy birthday, you. Embrace each day to the fullest.

“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” Philippians 4:8

Goodness of God

I love You, Lord
For Your mercy never fails me
All my days, I’ve been held in Your hands
From the moment that I wake up
Until I lay my head
Oh, I will sing of the goodness of God

Life is hard. Life is full of unexpected twist and turns. I find it is much easier to count the ways things don’t go as planned, than the ways of a Faithful God. I find that list forms naturally without even thinking about it. The pains and shortcomings or the “could’ve beens” can easily overtake us and create the space of sadness that imprisons you. We look at one another with the eye of “their life must be perfect” when in reality none are. I heard it once said that we must, “kill the idea of what life is ‘supposed’ to be.”

And all my life You have been faithful
And all my life You have been so, so good
With every breath that I am able
Oh, I will sing of the goodness of God

The “supposed to be”. Who even created that image and where did it come from? As we walk and grow, we must stop and take inventory that while we have all experienced struggle and pain, in those moments His mercies never failed us and we were held in His hands. My journey has created in me the burden of constantly watching for what is going to hit me and my family next. And through these calculations, I try to determine the level of impact and how to prolong or soften it as much as possible. And remind myself that all my life He has been faithful.

Now, I am not sure how healthy that is – but I have definitely done it my entire life. This past week when my dad was back in the hospital again with more of the distress to the body found from diabetes – I was reminded of the goodness of God. In pain, we are forced to choose – depression and sadness or thankfulness and growth. Each day, my joy must be found and lingered in. Lingering – that is a very unique word that can be so very difficult to achieve in this world. Lingering means lasting for a long time or slow to end. I remember the last time I saw my sister alive was our last choir practice together – and we lingered in the parking lot chatting and goofing off. I have never been more thankful for that lingering moment. All of our days are numbered, we must learn to calculate our moments. Where and how can we change our lives by lingering a moment longer with a soul nearby?

I love Your voice
You have led me through the fire
In the darkest night
You are close like no other
I’ve known You as a Father
I’ve known You as a Friend
And I have lived in the goodness of God

It’s amazing what the fires of life can look like. As the world continues to turn upside down, the weather events of extreme nature continue to increase, the loved ones around us pass away and illnesses overtake us – we must cling to His Voice. The day is coming where all will be made right. The day is coming when we will be able to look to the sky and our redemption will be here. The day is coming, as stated all throughout scripture, that we will feel no more pain nor struggle. And when the night gets dark, we must be reminded to turn to the One that is close like no other. He is our Father and our Friend. He is the One that knows our pains and struggles even when we cannot put words to them. He is the One that can carry us through any and all endeavors and paths in the journey we choose to fall down in. He is the Perfect One with the Perfect strength.

Through this journey, I have been reminded of a CS Lewis quote, “I want God, not my idea of God.” I want my idea of God crucified and only the One True God to survive.

And all my life You have been faithful
And all my life You have been so, so good
With every breath that I am able
Oh, I will sing of the goodness of God

‘Cause Your goodness is running after
It’s running after me
Your goodness is running after
It’s running after me
With my life laid down
I’m surrendered now
I give You everything
‘Cause Your goodness is running after
It’s running after me

When words won’t come and smiles are forced, I will sing of the goodness of God. When the days are long and the burdens are heavy, I will sing of the goodness of God. When the struggles and challenges keep coming, I will sing of the goodness of God. When the Bible won’t open and the enemy’s lies are strong, I will sing of the goodness of God. When I choose wrong, when right was there all along, I will sing of the goodness of God. Every moment is a choice, and I pray that I will continue to sing of the goodness of God.

And all my life You have been faithful
And all my life You have been so, so good
With every breath that I am able
Oh, I’m gonna sing of the goodness of God

Source: Musixmatch; Songwriters: Jason Ingram / Brian Johnson / Ed Cash / Ben Fielding / Jenn Johnson; Goodness of God lyrics © Capitol Cmg Paragon, Bethel Music Publishing, Shout! Music Publishing Australia

Chocolate and blueberry pancakes on a Saturday morning with my sweet girl creating our name place cards and coffee in my favorite cup given by my favorite sister. A Saturday morning linger.